Private opinions generally take a backseat when you become a parent. Everything from what people see your child eating, to their clothes, to their behaviour warrants the rise of random voices, usually in protest. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it can certainly be annoying.
The issue of Wolf’s hair has always been one of these.
I seriously don’t think it’s a big deal. He has the most divine hair. It’s so straight, a perfect sandy brown colour and it’s cool, but it’s long. It doesn’t reach past his shoulders but wow, people can really get vocal about it. Obviously, longer hair on men is fine, but it’s a big no-no for little boys.
The whole issue of teaching a boy masculinity is a fascinating one as it’s so foreign to me. There are all these standard rules: no pink, no dolls, gotta suck it up when something goes wrong, don’t pee with your pants on the ground, no long hair, nothing ‘girly’. Thank god I have my family and good male friends for (useful) pointers!
I’m also intrigued by the fact that Wolf and his friends are obsessed with heroes, to the point where Ben 10 was banned from his preschool. Are boys naturally drawn to these characters or is it clever marketing to sell stuff? Will this affect how he will see his place in life – as someone needing to be super and save the day?
The hair thing is getting me down though as people can assume he’s a girl, often to his face, and so Wolf wants to lop his locks off… soon. Not now (yay!), but soon… I know we’ll cut it off before he starts school, I just hope they’re empty threats for now.